As one who entertains frequently, I am always amazed how some guests never bother to thank their host/hostess for the time and special attention given to any entertaining effort. As a North Carolina Interior Designer, I require everyone on my staff to write a minimum of two handwritten notes per week.
Gratitude is a very important part of my character, and I really appreciate that trait in others. Entertaining requires time and resource priorities if done well.
The following day you think… I suppose I should thank the Flintstones for a nice evening.
A. I will just send Mrs. Flintstone a quick email…or
B. I will use some cute thank you notes that I have had for years, just lying in the desk drawer.
So what is your attitude of gratitude? Is an email going to do the work of thanking your hosts for this delightful evening? Not in the opinion of this hostess who entertains frequently. You have been entertained in a very thoughtful manner, and need to respond with a handwritten note. And it should be a prompt one!
We live in a world where the simple art of writing has greatly diminished in frequency. Our handy keyboards and touch pad cell phones have made us lazy in regards to reaching for real paper and real pens. I do not buy into the argument of the speed of modern life to exhibit our social graces. Call me old fashioned if you like, but I love taking the time to pen a note on my lovely William Arthur personalized stationery and my old faithful fountain pen. And what a joy to receive a marvelous note from a friend who has taken the time to send a note or a card that truly reflects their personal style after one has entertained them in their home!
Do not be intimidated by hand written notes. Thank you notes don’t have to be long or perfectly written-simply from the heart. Often they cause a great deal of anxiety. Always remember that an imperfect note that comes from the heart is better than a perfect note that was never written! And don’t even think of using the excuse of not having appropriate note cards or personalized stationery.
There is an endless selection of stationary and note cards-playful,
or avant-garde-reserved or delightfully colorful.
No matter what your style, you will find a paper and envelope to match your every mood. Let your imagination take flight!
I love the idea of these cards that are handmade and contain seeds. After you receive a card that perhaps contains wildflower seeds, just plant and remember that memorable entertaining event.
One of my favorite “paper shops” is Origami Ink in Asheville, N.C. Often between my design appointments in Asheville, I love spending time in this lovely shop. Owners, Jonathan and Cathie Robbins previously owned a similar shop in Woodstock, N.Y. and in 2008 relocated to Asheville and opened Origami. The vast array of lovely papers and pens in this shop is very significant and all seem to be very carefully selected. There is no question that one can find cards and stationary to fit every taste and budget. At Origami I have fallen in love with seals and sealing wax.
They have a beautiful assortment of seals and wax and can quiet economically have custom seals made for customers. The shop also offers incredible handbound journals and albums , as well as desktop luxuries and unusual artisan gifts…(as in hostess gifts!).
All of the lovely cards and personalized stationary in this posting are from Origami. Thanks Cathie for all of your help!
One can always keep a good supply of single letterpress cards on hand for thanking your host/hostess.
Most every town or city in this country has at least one stationary shop. I recently learned that one of my favorite shops in New York, Mrs. John L. Strong had been closed due to the economy. Another luxury stationer, Dempsey and Carroll located on Lexington Avenue in New York is coming to the rescue and has set about recreating their precious stationery. I know that this news is most welcome to Strong’s many loyal customers! Another custom social stationery source is Bernard Maisner.
Nine years ago, Wells and I entertained a very good “designer” friend of mine, Jim Noble from Minneapolis, Minnesota , Noble Interiors, Inc.
A few weeks days after Jim’s visit, he wrote a letter of very touching gratitude. This letter still resides in my nightstand and touched me very deeply. Words of gratitude always touch the receiver. This letter inspired me to never miss an opportunity to be grateful to those whose homes we visit.
So have I inspired you to write? To find a personal platform for your “attitude of gratitude”? I hope so! If I have, stay tuned for my top picks for host/hostess gifts.